A sourced guide to NYC matchmaking fees
How Much Does a Matchmaker Cost in NYC? (2026 Prices)

A matchmaker in New York City costs from about $4,400 to $1 million or more. Of 15 firms serving NYC that we checked in October 2026, per-match services cost $4,400–$15,000, most Manhattan boutiques start at $15,000–$35,000 for six months, and retained searches run $50,000–$500,000. Search scope, length and number of introductions set the price.
What are NYC matchmaker prices by tier?
A tier is a starting point for a conversation, rather than a promise of equivalent service. A three-match package and a six-month search buy different things. The table below groups the prices in our firm comparison by the way the service is sold.
Tawkify’s $4,400 three-match offer is the lowest published package price in this comparison. The top end comes from named memberships rather than an industry average. Boutique starting prices do not describe every package a firm sells: Agape’s reported six-month range reaches $50,000, and broader searches can sit in another tier. Start with the unit you are buying, then compare the scope, term and total commitment.
| Tier | Price range in our data | What it usually buys | Example firms and prices | Source type |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Per-match and date services | $4,400–$15,000 published | A fixed set of introductions or dates | Tawkify: $4,400 offer / $4,900 list for three matches, up to $15,000 list for 12; Three Day Rule: from $6,300 | Own sites; October 2026 |
| NYC boutique, 6–12 months | $15,000–$35,000 to start | A defined membership and personal search | Elite Connections $15,000; Maclynn and LUMA from $20,000; Amy Laurent $25,000+; Agape $30,000–$50,000 (its ceiling); Blaine and Sameera from $35,000 | Own sites; CBS 2024 |
| Retained and national search | $50,000–$500,000 | Search scope and criteria set individually | Cinqe $25,000–$350,000 (starts below this tier); Selective Search and Kelleher $50,000–$500,000; Bonnie Winston $60,000–$200,000; Maclynn tailored $50,000–$200,000 | Own sites; archive; NY Post 2026 |
| Ultra-high-end | $600,000–$1,000,000+ | Named top-tier memberships | Janis Spindel VIP $600,000; Global VIP from $1 million; Select Date Society Founders Club $1 million | Own sites; see firm sources and note below |
Ranges are the lowest and highest prices each firm publishes or clients report; most firms quote only after a consultation. Source links and checked dates for the 15 compared firms appear in the firm table. Select Date Society’s Founders Club is an additional top-tier example, listed at $1 million on its own site in the October 2026 price data.
What do NYC matchmakers charge, firm by firm?
These 15 firms serve New York, but serving NYC does not always mean operating a staffed local office. We show the location information available in our October price data so you can ask where your matchmaker works and how introductions happen. Addresses identify the published presence, not a recommendation to visit without arranging an appointment.
The list is alphabetical. Read the price-source column before comparing amounts: a firm’s own package card, a newspaper interview and a client complaint are different kinds of evidence. Press figures retain their original reporting dates and are not current offers. Where a term is not published, ask for it in writing. You can also read how we check prices and the best matchmakers in NYC, compared.
| Firm | NYC presence | Price | What it buys / length | Price source | Checked |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Agape Match | HQ NYC; 1 Liberty Plaza, 23rd floor | $30,000–$50,000 | Six-month program | Press: CBS, Feb. 13, 2024 | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Amy Laurent Elite Matchmaking | 590 Madison Ave; floor not published | $25,000+ annually | 12 months; upfront payment; 12-month hold | Own blog, Oct. 27, 2026 | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Bonnie Winston | NYC | $60,000–$200,000 | Six- or 12-month contracts | Press: NY Post, March 17, 2026 | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Cinqe | Remote; serves NYC | $25,000–$350,000 | Term set per client | Own FAQ | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Dating by Blaine | NYC matchmaker based in West Village; no office published | From $35,000; men only | Six months active search; up to three months pause | Own site, Oct. 19, 2026; NYC presence | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Elite Connections International | 521 5th Ave, 17th floor; by appointment | $15,000 | Standard six-month membership | Own site | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| It's Just Lunch | Serves NYC | Not published | Request a written package and term | Own FAQ; no published price | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking | 745 5th Ave, Suite 500, per BBB | Basic from $75,000; Preferred $150,000; Elite $300,000; VIP $600,000; Global VIP from $1 million | Male clients; term not published | Own site | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Kelleher International | NYC office details not published in verified data | $50,000–$500,000 | One- to two-year search | Archived own site, Oct. 15, 2026 | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| LUMA Luxury Matchmaking | NYC address not published | $20,000–$250,000 or more | Customized full service; six-month search | Own site | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Maclynn International | NYC address not published | Six months from $20,000; 12 months from $30,000; tailored $50,000–$200,000 | Six- or 12-month membership | Own six-month page; 12-month page | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Sameera Sullivan Matchmakers | 276 5th Ave, Suite 704-797 | Men $35,000–$500,000; gay men from $25,000 | Six months or one year; women’s coaching/virtual services $500–$25,000 | Own site; women’s services; gay men’s pricing; NYC address | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Selective Search | HQ Chicago; no NYC office published | $50,000–$500,000 | Retained search; typical contract six to 12 months | Own pricing page; FAQ | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Tawkify | Video-based; no NYC office published | 3 matches: $4,900 list / $4,400 offer; 6: $8,000 / $6,400; 12: $15,000 / $9,000 | About one match a month | Own package cards; list / offer; own FAQ: frequency | Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Three Day Rule | NYC page; HQ Los Angeles; no NYC office published | Premium memberships from $6,300 | Time-based; usually three months, six months or one year | Own site: starting price; Press: founder on terms, 2026 | Oct. 30, 2026 |
Prices checked 30 October 2026. A firm that wants a correction can reach us through our contact page.
NYCity Matchmaking has no current price published on its homepage in our October 2026 data. Hunting Maven has no current published price in our data. Older press figures for either firm are not a sound basis for a 2026 budget.
If your budget is under $10,000, begin by asking about a defined introduction package and the rules for using it. Tawkify’s advertised offers fall within that budget for three, six or 12 matches. The price alone does not tell you which package fits: check the time allowed, the feedback process and whether any additional payment could become due.
At a $25,000 budget, compare the starting memberships rather than assuming the whole boutique market is available. Elite Connections, Maclynn and LUMA publish starting figures below that amount. A more specific or broader search may receive a different quote. Tell each firm the same priorities so the proposals answer the same request.
A $100,000 budget overlaps several retained-search ranges, but does not make those services identical. Selective Search and Kelleher each publish a $50,000–$500,000 range in the sources listed above. Ask what makes your own proposal land at its quoted figure. Geography, criteria and term need to be explicit before a broad range becomes a meaningful comparison.
Why do matchmakers in New York cost what they do?
Number of introductions
Tawkify’s package cards separate three, six and 12 matches. Tawkify’s 12-match package has the lowest price per match on those cards. Compare both the total commitment and what happens when an introduction does not proceed. Paying for more introductions makes sense only if the definition of a match works for you.
Network size and search scope
Selective Search describes its service as a retained search costing $50,000–$500,000, depending on scope and criteria. Recruiting beyond an existing database involves search work. Cinqe names search difficulty, geography and time zones as price drivers. Ask which recruiting work your fee covers and whether a broader search would change the quote.
Coaching and preparation
Dating by Blaine’s coaching page lists a $4,985 1:1 Jumpstart program and also says “starts at $3,985.” Coaching and introductions are separate purchases to identify in a proposal. Ask whether preparation is included in your search fee, and compare any separately quoted program against the work you want help with.
Length of membership
Maclynn publishes six-month memberships from $20,000 and 12-month memberships from $30,000. Those are different search windows, not monthly subscriptions. Confirm whether pauses extend the term and whether introductions are promised by a deadline. Time available to search and the number of introductions delivered are separate contract questions.
Matchmaker experience and who handles your search
Do not assume that a higher fee buys a particular person’s time. Dating by Blaine ties price to search difficulty, with easier searches closer to $35,000 and harder ones costing more. Ask who interviews candidates, who reviews feedback and who handles a stalled search. The published prices alone cannot measure experience or personal attention.
Use the consultation to separate your preferences from requirements that would define the search. A location preference, an available travel radius and the time you can actually reserve for dates are useful parts of a brief. Ask the matchmaker to explain how those choices affect the proposed work. Cinqe’s published geography and difficulty factors show why the same firm can quote different searches differently.
How do retainer, per-introduction, monthly and success fees work?
A retainer or membership pays for work over an agreed term. Elite Connections publishes a $15,000 standard six-month membership. Selective Search uses a retained-search model. Ask whether the obligation is to perform search work, arrange a minimum number of introductions, or both. The name of the pricing model does not answer that question.
A per-introduction package puts a match count at the center of the purchase. Tawkify’s three-, six- and 12-match cards make the quantity visible. Read the accompanying rules before dividing the price by that number. A cancellation can use up a match even when you never sit down together, depending on the contract.
A monthly fee can make a shorter commitment possible. VIDA Select’s FAQ lists month-to-month memberships starting at $1,695. That is a published monthly model. Elite Connections’ description of $15,000 as about $2,500 per month is arithmetic across a six-month membership; it does not establish a cancel-anytime subscription.
A success fee is a separate potential obligation. VIDA Select reports that Janis Spindel’s finder’s fee equals the signing fee and is triggered by engagement, moving in together or dating a match for 12 months. MyCheekyDate reports an possible $5,000 Agape success fee if a relationship lasts six months or longer. These are secondary reports, checked October 2026. Request the firm’s actual terms before calculating your total exposure.
Before accepting a payment schedule, total the amounts you could owe under the written agreement. Distinguish the signing payment from later installments and any contingent fee. Then check when the service ends: after a fixed period, after the agreed introductions, or under another stated condition. Ask the firm to explain an unclear clause in writing. A package card is useful for the first comparison, but the final agreement should describe the purchase you are actually making.
Does “free for women” mean free matchmaking?
Free database membership usually means becoming a possible introduction for a paying client. It does not mean receiving your own active search. The paying client funds the search; the candidate pool supplies people who may fit that client. Ask which role you are applying for before sharing a detailed profile.
Selective Search’s candidate program says the program is “100% complimentary,” with “no fees to join and no fees to match.” Agape’s free singles database says “Join our singles database for free” and “Our top priority will always be our active clients.” Tawkify’s FAQ says members “may be matched with clients, but they do not work directly with a matchmaker.”
Three Day Rule invites singles to “Join Our Network For Free.” Maclynn has free Open Members, with its free database also covered in the March 2026 NY Post report. Dating by Blaine says the women introduced to male clients are not paying the company. Registration gives a matchmaker candidates to consider while the paying client funds the active search.
Sameera Sullivan offers a free women’s registry. Janis Spindel publishes nonrefundable women’s consultation fees of $500–$4,000. Those fees buy consideration, rather than the male-client search package. All examples were checked October 2026.
Free members are introduced only when they fit a paying client. Consider the pool an additional channel, and keep your own social plans moving while you wait.
What does a year of matchmaking, coaching or apps cost?
A year is a useful budgeting window, but the services below are sold in different units. The app figure is a calculation from reported monthly rates. The coaching figures buy named programs. The matchmaking figures buy a match package or search, whose term must be checked separately.
Coaching helps with your approach; a matchmaker arranges introductions; apps give you a platform to search yourself. Choose the work you want help with before comparing the sticker price. See our guides to the best dating apps in NYC and dating coaches in NYC for the differences between formats.
| Option | Cost and unit | What to budget for | Source / checked |
|---|---|---|---|
| Apps | $480–$600 for 12 months at reported $40–$50 monthly rates | Calculation at unchanged rates; not a verified annual plan | NY Post, March 17, 2026; checked Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Dating coach | $1,200 for eight weekly sessions; $4,985 for Blaine’s 1:1 Jumpstart; the same page also says “starts at $3,985” | Program fees, not annual subscriptions; repeat work costs extra | Stevie Bowen; Dating by Blaine; checked Oct. 30, 2026 |
| Matchmaker | $4,400 Tawkify three-match offer to $1 million or more, with Spindel Global VIP starting at $1 million | Different match counts and terms; no annualized estimate | Tawkify; Janis Spindel; checked Oct. 30, 2026 |
How can New York law and your contract help you avoid overpaying?
Read New York General Business Law § 394-c alongside your proposed agreement. The law’s August 1, 2025 revision, checked October 30, 2026, sets out dating-service consumer protections. The summary below does not determine how the law applies to a particular firm or contract.

- Cancellation: a three-business-day cancellation right.
- Referral commitment: a specified number of social referrals per month in the contract.
- No-referral refund: after two successive months without referrals, a refund option; the seller may retain 15% of the cash price or a pro-rata amount, whichever is greater.
- Add-ons: no required purchase of an ancillary service.
- Pauses: a right to hold service for up to one year.
- Personal information: protections against sale of personal data and provisions for return or deletion.
- Written rights: the Dating Service Consumer Bill of Rights.
Ask four practical questions before signing. What counts as an introduction? Tawkify’s policy says canceling with less than 48 hours’ notice forfeits the match. Ask how declined candidates, rescheduling and no-shows affect your own package.
What is refundable? NYCity’s terms say fees are nonrefundable unless otherwise stated. Read those statements with the full agreement and applicable rights rather than assuming a verbal assurance changes the terms.
Who will you meet? Ask whether candidates are paying clients, free members or people recruited for your search. How long can the search run, and can you pause? Put the active term, pause allowance and any extension in writing. Keep the proposal and final agreement together so you can compare the promise with the purchase.
Keep a separate line in your budget for costs outside the search fee. Ask whether the written proposal includes photography, styling or coaching, and whether you pay for the dates themselves. Do not assume an extra is included because another firm includes it. If a proposal mentions a later fee, request its amount, trigger and payment timing before signing.
For the broader decision, read is a matchmaker worth it? A clear scope and an affordable commitment matter more than finding the largest advertised discount.
Frequently asked questions
How much is a matchmaker in NYC?
Current advertised examples in our October 2026 comparison run from Tawkify’s $4,400 three-match offer to Janis Spindel’s Global VIP starting at $1 million. Elite Connections publishes $15,000 for six months. These amounts buy different services; request a written scope, introduction count and term before comparing quotes.
How much does a matchmaker usually cost?
The boutique starting band highlighted in this guide is $15,000–$35,000, with six-month examples including Elite Connections at $15,000 and Maclynn from $20,000. Dating by Blaine starts at $35,000 for six months of active search. This is a group of named examples, not an industry-wide average or a ceiling.
What’s the cheapest matchmaking service in NYC?
Tawkify’s $4,400 offer for three matches is the lowest published package price among the 15 firms checked in October 2026. It’s Just Lunch does not publish a price. A limited-match package buys fewer introductions than a larger package; compare the match count, active term and cancellation rules before choosing.
How much does It’s Just Lunch cost?
It’s Just Lunch does not publish a price in our October 2026 comparison. Request a written quote that specifies the number of dates, membership length and refund terms. Compare that proposal with Tawkify’s published $4,400 three-match offer, while checking whether the services and obligations match your needs.
Do NYC matchmakers charge a monthly fee?
Some do: VIDA Select publishes month-to-month memberships from $1,695, checked October 2026. Other firms sell a defined membership: Elite Connections offers six months, Maclynn offers six or 12 months, Amy Laurent publishes an upfront annual fee, and CBS reported Agape’s six-month program. Ask separately about the payment schedule and cancellation rights.
Do matchmakers charge women?
It depends on the role and firm. Selective Search, Agape, Three Day Rule and Maclynn have free candidate pools. Free candidates wait for a fit with a paying client. Janis Spindel publishes nonrefundable women’s consultation fees of $500–$4,000. Confirm whether a payment buys consideration, coaching or an active search for you.